I'll make this short, sweet, and Simple -- I need Help.

[OldAcctSnapFlash]

Ok, so shit, where to begin.............?

Well, let me explain why I'm posting this thread. I need help and feedback on how to help myself with the current reputation I have in Blocktopia. It's gotten to the point where the choice of leaving the entire community occurs in my mind more frequently. I...I'm noticing more people are choosing not to invite me into private rooms, and it also seems like people are kind of ignoring me a hair more often as well. It's like your sitting on a bench, and the person beside you moves away from you. I'll get out with it already.

I...just want to be liked again by the community, and have those types of experiences that everyone has with others. There ain't anything wrong with that. But beside the rare good memory, almost everything I'm known for is just fucking bitching about being banned, and that's not what I WANT to be known for, I want to be known for someone that works hard and has a fun time with others. Age restriction need not apply (though I'm 13) and I'm sorry for all the times I've caused trouble. There's no end to how much I can appologize for my actions.

I give you this rare time, where I will head back to a younger version of myself by a few years and take everything to heart.

At this point I feel like I should post about my reputation problems, etc. publicly as it's gone too far for me.

If you have opinions, ways to fix big problems, etc. then shoot. I will more than appreciate it.

Just..............

I'm sorry.

-Joshua "SnapFlash" Norris

 

[Lee_scar]

Terrible feelings occure when reading this.

 

[Shinyshark]

Doing things like these aren't effective. If anything it is more likely to create gossip than help.

I've done things like these back in a different community. It was, as I said, ineffective. People talked behind my back, and that community wasn't afraid to say it.

From what I've seen from you, you're annoying and obnoxious. Talking over me and starting long, irrelevant and uninteresting topics through the current topic.

Like I've said before (and I can't stress this enough) be yourself. Taking opinions of others into account is a good idea, but don't let them dictate your behaviour.

And finally, I'd suggest hitting up some people in private for a live conversation. That does help, unlike this.

 

[Naterger]

• Open your ears and listen, you don't need to speak much to be liked.
• Try becoming more soft spoken, & maybe base your conversations with others around something interesting to both of you.
• Be polite.
• Don't start unwarrented arguements, take the higher path when they do arise.
• Try your best to defuse heated situations.

The list goes on, its no different from interacting with people in person.

This thread shows you have the will to improve your behavior and persona. Personally I disagree with shiny that a thread such as this is not effective, constructive criticism is always helpful if you can take it the right way and know how to use it.

People wanna interact with open warming people, so try your best to be a dad like dude, dads always know what to do dB^)

 

[Shinyshark]

• Be polite.
• Be efficient.
• Have a plan to kill everyone you meet.

 

[Iguana]

you just talk too much when others are clearly having a conversation with each other, and you steer the conversation to something completely different or overpower them with the volume of your voice

 

[Mikey]

Whos posts a thread asking for people to be nice and be friends with them? I understand you're apologizing but that's not really how it works, you have to regain respect of what has been lost.

Go out and make friends by actually holding civil, humane coversations and do that yourself, that is how life is.

 

[Iguana]

everyone hating on you for making an apology on the forums, but mad respect yo, takes courage and it's a good step in the right direction

just stay a bit more passive when you're in channels and chill man and you'll be fine

 

[RyanDodd]

Snap, I understand that you are sorry for what you did and based on the number of apologies you've made, you're most likely sincere. I have some advice.

Not too many people are aware that I was almost banned on CTNT. If I were to get one more warning then I'd be banned. I constantly swore, broke rules, and was a general asshole. Once I had a chat with a friendly staff member though, I felt the need to change myself. Simply promising to change is not changing. Actions speak louder than words. I went about this mostly by thinking thoroughly about what I was about to type/say before I said it. Guess what? It paid off. After a couple of months of proving that I can be a mature, friendly person I applied for Trusted...and was accepted.

I said that to say this. Anyone can change, they just have to try to. A few things you can do are:

1. Like I said previously, thinking about what you're going to say before you press that irreversible 'submit' button.
2. Try to become a quieter person. Just because you have an opinion doesn't mean everyone wants to hear it.
3. Don't make it as public as you have been that you are sorry. Sure it's not a bad thing but unless you actually become a better person, it's useless and makes you look worse than you already do.

I'm not saying that you'll be rewarded with a staff position or even be unbanned, but at least you can get more people to realize that you're not such a bad person and become friends with you. After all, isn't this entire community focused on socializing with friends?

 

[Dess]

Honestly, what the fuck is wrong with everybody being rude to him in a thread where he openly admitted he is trying to change. That is doing nothing but putting him down more.

Snap, I applaud you for trying to change now. As for trying to change, a large issue I have heard from people is that you seem to be pushy and won't let things go or will continue to ask. Try and work on that snap, remember no matter how much it may seem like you are unliked people will welcome you back eventually. It may be a long and hard road but it will be worth it.

 

[Undefined User 7]

Snap isn't some persecuted minority @Dessern5. He may not admit this, but this thread was actually caused by something that happened last night. He had asked to come into a private room, asking each individual person for entry. After everyone said no, he demanded reasons. You cannot make people accept you, if someone does not want you in their group, you have to accept the hard facts.

This is at least the 3rd thread you've made on this topic, and I must say I'm very tired of it. You may not enter private rooms without permission. If someone says no, you may not go and ask other members for entry. The inhabitants of the room may also deny entry for any reason. The only exception is idling, which many of the rooms you ask for entry aren't notoriously involved with. You are not owed an explanation, especially not after these groups have all given you several reasons why they would prefer you not to be among them. Is it nice? No. But it is fair, and that is how things work in this world.

It is good to resolve yourself to change. However, after so many promises of change, you must ask yourself if you've achieved actual growth.

I'm going to stand by on this thread in the event of a possbile shitstorm.​

 

[RyanDodd]

I really think we should trust him that he's trying to do better but needs help with it, because if he isn't, that sure has a lot to say about him. True he has his share of mistakes, but so does everyone. Let's try to be friendly, helpful, and supportive about this.

 

[LizzzyxD]

sry I don't consider u pathetic

 

[Psycho]

Joshua, if you're feeling alienated by the people that you are trying to talk to, then they are NOT worth your time and effort. Move on. There are many other people out there who will have the decency to acknowledge you and respect who you are. These are the type of people who will be open and grow to understand you, no matter what your flaws. Also, do not let this moment define who you are for the rest of your life -- you're still young and there is so much more to learn. Enjoy life. Have fun. Take care of yourself.

 

[Mikey]

Honestly, what the fuck is wrong with everybody being rude to him in a thread where he openly admitted he is trying to change. That is doing nothing but putting him down more.

I don't see anyone being rude? And even if someone did decide to be rude, it would almost be justified for the reason of the amount the shit he's done:

http://blocktopia.net/forum/threads/rof-apr-13-snaps-unban-appeal.11567/
http://blocktopia.net/forum/threads/umm-snaps-2nd-ban-appeal.11869/
http://blocktopia.net/forum/threads/snaps-honest-2nd-ban-appeal.11904/
http://blocktopia.net/forum/threads/rof-snapflashs-ban-appeal.13650/
http://blocktopia.net/forum/threads/jte-october-19-snapflashs-journey-to-elysium-ban-appeal.13685/
http://blocktopia.net/forum/threads/bb-snapflashs-buildbox-appeal.13848/
http://blocktopia.net/forum/threads/absentia-temporaria-my-friends.14395/
http://blocktopia.net/forum/threads/the-extreme-apology-and-buildbox-ban-appeal-of-snap.14643/
http://blocktopia.net/forum/threads/teamspeak-issue-with-others-not-just-for-me-for-everyone.14711/
http://blocktopia.net/forum/threads...etermined-to-have-a-different-attitude.14735/
http://blocktopia.net/forum/threads/ill-make-this-short-sweet-and-simple-i-need-help.15032/

11 threads 'apologizing' and saying 'you will change' in the past year, however seemingly no action taken. Not even 12 months all this happened. And you're going to get angry at people for being rude? Hell, we'll be due for a another one of these threads in ~ 1 month time.

Let me requote something:

"4. Play for fun, and the rest will follow.
You should be here because you want to have fun - not because you want to waltz in and be given staff ranking and the best items. All those things come as a result of you putting in time and dedication to both the servers and the community. Enjoy your time here and work towards your goals rather than expecting them to be fulfilled up front."

Not only should it be common sense, it's a global rule here.

Whatever, call me a condescending, controversial asshole for speaking my opinion. But honestly, It is rather annoying when no initative is taken besides from writing these threads once a month or so. Hell, I'd talk to you if struck me up with a PM, I sit in a room by myself all day.

I sincerely don't mean to come off as a prick here, but something rather needed to be said.

 

[Sploorky]

Snap isn't some persecuted minority @Dessern5. He may not admit this, but this thread was actually caused by something that happened last night. He had asked to come into a private room, asking each individual person for entry. After everyone said no, he demanded reasons. You cannot make people accept you, if someone does not want you in their group, you have to accept the hard facts.
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Fairly sure that wasn't the point of the thread, he was using that as an example to reach the point of that he believes people are avoiding him.

Honestly, what the fuck is wrong with everybody being rude to him in a thread where he openly admitted he is trying to change. That is doing nothing but putting him down more.

Dont see anyone being rude. He asked for people to give him their thoughts, and they each tried to help him in their own way.

 

[BrickWolf]

 

[GoldenValley]

 

[superstein]

Honestly, as someone in a head staff position, I still have the problems you do from time to time. Don't take it personally when someone does not let you in a conversation room - it just means that simply, they want to have their own private conversation. It's like they are in a Skype call, if they are in a private room just leave them be. I mean, sure, you can always ask, but if they say no then they just want to be together, and that's honestly fine because it is the purpose of those rooms.

But it's not all about just talking with people. It's about getting to know people through other ways, like community events. We run movie nights, we run community game nights, we run various other events on servers and on TS too. These are nice outlets to have fun with the community, and nobody's going to say you can't come. I generally like to stick to my little corners of the community I am most familiar with and I like most but I'll show up to the meetings and events like these. That's where you really get to know people, and on the servers too.

You've had a really rough start, and making threads like these will only help if you actually capitalize on it. I'm not going to bash you because others will certainly do a good job of doing that, and I think both ways are good ways to teach a lesson, but since you're asking for it you really gotta work on it. There's people already trying to help you because they feel bad and care, but you'll have to learn to say no and take everyone's advice too.

 

[BrickWolf]

But it's not all about just talking with people. It's about getting to know people through other ways, like community events. We run movie nights, we run community game nights, we run various other events on servers and on TS too.

REALLY don't wanna make things worse but we haven't had one of those in the past month or so.

 

[Refrigerated_Elements]

This drama . This happens every month or two with little change with these threads...

 

[Notme]

Uhh there is some drama going here?

 

[Sploorky]

Closing this thread to prevent more of a shitstorm.

Frankly I'm disheartened. I'm disheartened that 'another' thread was made pleading for forgiveness instead of opting to speak privately about it, because we don't need an attention seeking thread filled with drama. I'm disheartened that this thread actually had to be made, that you've been alienated to the extent of feeling this way, instead of people being honest with you. Hell, I'm even surprised that this thread garnered so many responses, instead of opting for a private message. After Iguana's second post, I don't really know why people continued responding, that would be the perfect end to me, anything else could have been taken up privately.

All I see is dramatic crap caused by dramatic crap leading to more dramatic crap, and I'm a little scared because I really think people enjoy this.

I'm disappointed, Blocktopia.

EDIT- To elaborate, considering I know noone will ask me, just resort to ratings, it's not just the thread itself or what comes from it that is the main source of drama that rips through the community, it's the backlash from it and gossip, teasing, etc caused by it. I appreciate the need to have a fresh start, but both shinyshark and mikey are right. This thread has lead to gossip and a surprising amount of meanness off the content of the thread itself, and actions speak a hell of a lot louder than words. Furthermore, more happens than just what people see in this thread alone, and that is what I find overall disappointing. People are of course free to speak to me if you disagree or want more clarification.